Any of you who have ever read “Romance of the Three Kingdoms” will know that Cao Cao is the most suspicious man in the world. Therefore, we have a saying “Overly suspicious like Cao Cao”. I remember when I was little, I extremely disliked Cao Cao when I read this novel, yet I kept thinking to myself: “Perhaps I should never be as suspicious to the point of cruelty as Cao Cao did, but maybe suspicion is something I should learn more about, otherwise how do I survive in this world?” And this question has followed me for many years as I grow up. Continue reading Suspicious?
The word ‘resource’ means a source – source of money, source of materials, source of supports, source of people–basically sources that enrich us, as resources, in plural form, is the sum of properties possessed by a person, a company, or a nation. In daily working life, a resourceful person is someone who knows a lot of sources. Needless to say, this is a very important person for every project, as he/she has the ability to pull different sources of people or materials into the projects. Continue reading Resourceful
Tôi không biết nếu như bạn có thể nhìn thấy
Những thay đổi đã đến với tôi
Trong những ngày qua tôi đã sợ
Rằng tôi có thể trôi dạt đi
Tôi đã kể những câu chuyện cũ, hát những bài ca
Khiến tôi suy nghĩ về nơi đôi đã ra đi
Đó là lí do mà ngày hôm nay tôi dường như đã quá xa cách.
I often receive questions from you guys like: A friend of mine keeps talking nonsense about things she does not understand, and I want help her improve her understanding, but I’m afraid she might get angry. What should I do? I have a friend who just doesn’t understand the spiritual life you preach, and is suffering because of it. Should I try persuading him again? Continue reading Can you teach anyone?
If you want to persuade your friends, parents, siblings to live positively, the least effective way to do so is by words, and the best way to persuade them is by your own positive living.
Words are the worst way to persuade your loved ones. Deeds are the best way.
Why is it that words are the worst way? Continue reading Persuade by example
Suppose that you are the HR Director of a company and you are recruiting employees for your company. Which one among the following will be the most important character trait that you look for in a candidate: experience, academic degrees, integrity, intelligence, teamwork, modesty, diligence, or good speaking skills?
Very often we feel that we are completely lost, that we don’t know what we should do, what we should use our life for, which direction we should go, which job we should do or learn, how our future will be, or where our future lies.
And we feel lost. Seeing our friends work hard, building their careers, holding good positions… we wish we could be like them, know what we want and what we should do, and be happy with our life plans…
There’s a fear that weighs heavily upon many of us every minute, every single day, through our whole life, whether we think about it or are aware of its existence or not. That is the fear of rejection, the fear of not achieving what we aim for. In other words, it is the fear of “No” – no acceptance, no agreement from someone, no gain, no achievement…
If we pay attention to what happen in our daily life with gratitude, we will see “miracles” or “God’s blessings” or “good karma” come to us almost every day. If we are not grateful, they will all seem to be coincidences and meaningless.
If we are profoundly grateful, we will see that everything has a very deep meaning.
Whoever watches Forrest Gump will never forget the famous line “Run, Forrest, run!”. This is an American comedy-drama film, a genre of movie that combines both humorous and serious content. Forrest Gump is a young boy born in Alabama, a state in the Southern part of the US. Having a crooked spine and slightly retarded since birth, he was a target for bullies. Jenny was Forrest’s only friend, and they often walked to school together. One day, Forrest was harassed by a group of boys and Jenny told him “Run, Forrest, run!”, so the disabled boy struggled to run until his leg braces broke apart, and the little boy could run for the very first time in his life.
Since then, Forrest ran everywhere, and his legs became stronger. He ran at maximum speed every time someone told him to run, incredibly fast, to the degree that he was recruited to the high school’s football team, and became a football player in the university with a football scholarship.
Awakened people have an experience that those who are still deep in sleep neither have nor understand: The world around us is very beautiful and we are blessed with so many favors from God.
The wild flower petals by the front door.
A bird flying across the sky.
Sunshine among the leaves.
The city awakes, everybody starts a new day.
A delicious lunch.
A sound sleep at night.
The cute three-year-old son.
The sweet lover.
The flamboyant tree blooming with red flowers next door.
This is hard to do. If we no longer have any desire, can we be sure we are still passionate about life? still wanting to live? The truth is, desires and wishes are the goals motivating us towards achieving them – a university degree, a good job, opening a store – and that’s what makes like fun, lively, and active. Without those wishes, those dreams to follow, life would have been very dull… like dead.
This is our big problem. How to follow our dreams without being drawn into the cycle of suffering, as the Buddha has taught?
We are not positive towards those we have low opinion of – those we consider bad and awful.
We are not positive towards things that we deem ugly, lousy.
We are not positive towards difficult circumstances.
But please don’t forget that the correct positivity is not our mental reaction to external conditions, but rather it is our mind’s constant attitude. People who have positivity in their blood will always be positive.
Our speaking usually goes at our natural velocity, stemming from our personality – people who think as fast as lightning usually speak fast, those who think more slowly often speak softly, or in contrast, people who do not think tend to speak fast, those who think regularly speak slowly. Speaking velocity also depends on region: Busy areas like New York or Washington DC have more fast speakers than less busy areas such as Alabama or Tennessee.
Yet this is an important point: oftentimes when meeting a slower speaker, the fast speaker may make the other one scared, or annoyed, and lose sympathy. Speaking fast usually makes people with a slow talking habit nervous as they feel that they cannot catch up with the speaker – if we are a fast speaker due to our empty head then they will be annoyed with our empty head, if we speak fast due to our intelligence then they will be scared of our smartness.