Add your culture into your handshake

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

You are Vietnamese. You may have a degree from the US or Europe, and you may wear a suit with a tie every day, but you are basically still a Vietnamese – you look Vietnamese and maybe your English speaking has a tint of Vietnamese accent in it.

Don’t try to act 100% like a Westerner, because you won’t be a Westerner, and because of an important thing: You have Vietnamese cultural capital in your pocket; take it out and use it for your advantage.

Let’s talk about your handshake. Handshake is important because it is the first and also the last thing that happens when people meet. First impression and last impression, both are ultra-important in communication and etiquette.

The Western handshake is your right hand gripping and shaking the other man’s right hand, while your body standing straight and your eyes looking at his eyes. It is formal and… cold.

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Let’s add some Asian culture into the handshake to make it warmer, friendlier, and more respectful.

First, the hands. If you grip the other man’s hand with both of your hands, then that a show of great respect, usually used when you shake an elder’s hand in the Vietnamese culture.

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However, in business and diplomacy, this way of handholding may be misunderstood as kowtowing, which is sign of weakness.

So, we change a little: Your right hand grips the other man’s right hand as usual, but you place your left hand on top of both gripping right hands, as in the picture below.

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In this way, the handshake is warm and shows respect but with great confidence.

The head. While handshaking, bow down you head just a little, as if you are nodding your head.

Now you have a very Asian handshake, warm, friendly, respectful, and confident, which will win heart and mind of most people.

The great thing about this is that this handshake may make the other person feel so warm and respected, but he doesn’t know how to return the favour to you, because he has only his Western handshake. So, he feels like he owes you something. And he will love you for that.

If after a good-bye handshake, you top it off with putting both your palms together in front of your chest – chắp tay búp sen – as in a temple, and slightly bow to the other person, Thai style. Then he will be blown away.

Two Thai women in Sawasdee action.

The most important thing we are trying to achieve here is that you show yourself as a Vietnamese, and Asian, with respect and confidence toward others, and you respect them enough to act to them as who you truly are.

I guess in Vietnam today, people call it bamboo diplomacy. I like this term: Bamboo diplomacy.

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Be respect and confident to show your true self in your communication.

Wish you all be confident in our bamboo diplomacy.

With compassion,

Hoành

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Early trade warning needed to better defend Vietnamese products

VNN – November 13, 2023 – 08:36

Workers at a textile factory in the northern province of Bắc Ninh. — VNA/VNS Photo Danh Lam

HÀ NỘI — Việt Nam should set up an early warning system for trade defence to help support Vietnamese products in foreign markets, said industry leaders and policymakers.

According to data from the Trade Remedies Authority of Vietnam under the Ministry of Industry and Trade (MoIT), Vietnamese products have been involved in 235 trade remedies investigations in 24 markets around the world. The majority of the cases were anti-dumping (129), trade safeguard (47), evasion investigation (34) and anti-subsidy (24) in nature with products including wooden cabinets, laminated wood, solar panels, shrimp, basa fish, high-pressure washers, foam mattresses, grass cutting machines, cigarette paper, and honey.

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Những huyền thoại Do Thái và cuộc chiến của Israel

SÁNG ÁNH – 14/11/2023 10:52 GMT+7

TTCTCó một chuyện tiếu lâm kể về 5 người Do Thái. Một là Moses: Luật là tất cả. Hai là Giê Su: Tình yêu là tất cả. Ba là Marx: Vốn là tất cả. Bốn là Freud: Tình dục là tất cả. Và năm là Einstein: Tất cả đều tương đối.

Ảnh: European Commission

Chuyện vui này cho thấy tầm quan trọng và ảnh hưởng của người Do Thái trong tâm tưởng Tây phương. Nó nhắm vào trước hết là cái “thông minh” của “dân tộc” này, để từ đó dẫn tới tiền của, tài khoa học hay kỹ thuật cũng như thương mãi. Tại sao người Do Thái lại được ưu tiên và mang tiếng như vậy?

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Vào đi, Người cát – Enter Sandman

500 Greatest Songs of All Times

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Đây là bài hát của ban nhạc nhạc rock kim loại nặng (heavy metal) người Mỹ Metallica, phát hành năm 1991. Nhạc được viết bởi tay guitar chính Kirk Hammett, ca sĩ và tay guitar đệm James Hetfield, và tay trống Lars Ulrich. Ca sĩ và tay guitar đệm Hetfield viết lời bài hát, nói về cơn ác mộng của trẻ.

Trong cuộc xâm lược Iraq năm 2003, các tù nhân bất hợp tác đã bị các nhà thẩm vấn Mỹ cho nghe bài hát này trong thời gian dài. Theo Cơ quan Hoạt động Tâm lý Mỹ, mục đích là “phá vỡ sự phản kháng của tù nhân [… bằng cách] chơi loại nhạc xúc phạm họ về mặt văn hóa”. Khi phát hiện điều này, tay trống Lars Ulrich nhận xét: “tất cả có vẻ kỳ và lạ đến mức âm nhạc của ban nhạc Metallica, vốn thường giúp gắn kết mọi người lại với nhau, lại được dùng trong những hoàn cảnh kỳ lạ này. Đó chắc chắn không phải là điều chúng tôi ủng hộ hay tha thứ.” (Enter Sandman, wikipedia). Continue reading Vào đi, Người cát – Enter Sandman

Soldiers teach special classes for ethnic people in Tây Nguyên

VNN – November 11, 2023 – 08:09

The classes not only help Jrai ethnic people in the village learn to read and write, but also contribute to raising people’s awareness and responsibility in protecting the national borders.

Many JRai students have to bring their children to literacy classes. — VNA/VNS Photo

GIA LAI — Border soldiers in the Tây Nguyên (Central Highlands) province of Gia Lai are assuming the role of teachers to eliminate illiteracy among local ethnic people. 

The residential area of Suối Khôn in the border commune of Ia Mơ, Chu Prông District has 561 residents of the Jrai ethnic minority group, with most of them being very poor.

Currently, there are 71 illiterate people, accounting for 10 per cent of the area’s population.

Ia Lốp Border Guard Station opened classes to teach people and the soldiers are their teachers.

The classes not only help Jrai ethnic people in the village learn to read and write, but also contribute to raising people’s awareness and responsibility in protecting the national borders.

To get to Suối Khôn Residential Area, it takes more than two hours to travel from the city of Pleiku to Ia Pier Commune, then through a dirt road of more than ten kilometres full of mud and slush.

Lieutenant Colonel Nguyễn Văn Thành, secretary of the station’s Party Committee, said that there were 71 Jrai ethnic people who were illiterate, of which 45 people wanted to learn.

The station’s leaders decided to open classes to teach the illiterate people.

Since earlier this year, Ia Lốp Border Guard Station has organised two four-month literacy classes for the Jrai ethnic minority with 25 students.

The teachers are soldiers including Lieutenant Colonel Vũ Văn Hoàng, who teaches math, and Captain Nguyễn Văn Luân, who teaches Vietnamese language.

The entire programme uses literacy learning materials compiled by the Ministry of Education and Training.

The classes, which take place three evenings per week, received the professional support of Hoàng Hoa Thám Primary School in neighbouring Ia Piơr Commune.

Captain Nguyễn Văn Luân said that the journey of mobilising people to come to class encountered many hardships.

“The weather conditions here are very harsh. People mainly work in agriculture and their lives are very difficult,” Luân said.

“Ethnic minorities often feel an inferiority complex and have low self-esteem so they are timid in communication,” Luân said.

“Therefore, we had to go to each household to mobilise and encourage them to boldly come to class,” the captain said.

Soldiers cum teachers of Ia Lốp Border Guard Station come directly to local residents’ houses to urge them to attend literacy classes. — VNA/VNS Photo

Getting people to come to school was difficult, and maintaining class size was even more difficult.

Lieutenant Colonel Vũ Văn Hoàng said that the classes started in the evening, but in the afternoon the teachers had to go to each house to remind people of the class.

Because the students’ ages ranged from 16 to 60, organising classes and teaching methods must be flexible, especially during the crop season. Students have to work hard during the day so many of them cannot attend classes in the evening, said Hoàng.

“So to maintain the classes, the border guard soldiers had to come to help people with farm work or take care of their children to help them feel secure and focus on their studies,” said Hoàng.

Change of life

Kpui H’Lép, 27, is one of the outstanding students. After only four months of studying, she was able to read and write fluently.

H’Lep happily said: “Before, I was illiterate, very self-conscious and shy. I was always oppressed when doing business and criticised when doing housework.”

“But now it is different. I learned how to read and calculate. I thanked the teachers for helping me and other people in the village to have a better life,” she said.

Another student, Rơ Lan H’Cúc, 26, residing in Sâm Village, Ia Piơr Commune, has a two-year-old daughter whom she has to carry to evening classes.

Rơ Lan H’Cúc often sits at the back of the class but is very diligent and serious.

“I regretted not being literate earlier. Now I have the opportunity to learn many things from teachers. The teachers not only taught us how to read and write but also gave us books, pens, babysitting and farming instructions,” Rơ Lan H’Cúc said.

“I am very grateful to the teachers,” she said.

Suối Khôn residential area was formed in 2003. Most of residents are the Jrai ethnic minority.

Since its formation until now, this residential area has not yet received basic investment in electricity, roads, and schools, and people haven’t fully benefited from social security policies.

The reason is because this land belongs to the administrative boundaries of Ia Mơ Commune but the population is managed by another commune, Ia Piơr Commune.

Hà Văn Tin, vice chairman of the People’s Committee of Ia Piơr Commune, Chu Prông District, said that the authorities of Ia Piơr and Ia Mơ communes and the people in the area hoped that the competent authorities would soon allow the establishment of Khôl Village under Ia Mơ Commune according to a project since April 2022.

This is a condition for Suối Khôn Residential Area to be better managed and develop in the future, Tin said. — VNS

Soldiers of the Ia Lốp Border Guard Station teach literary classes for JRai ethnic minority people. — VNA/VNS Photo

Liên hệ Israel và Iran – Từ bạn hóa thù (3 phần)

Trước khi thù địch, Israel và Iran từng “thân” như thế nào?

NĐT -: Thứ 7, 11/11/2023 | 00:23- 17:26

Sau cuộc chiến với các nước Ả Rập năm 1948, Israel đối mặt với thách thức an ninh cực lớn khi bị bao quanh bởi phần lớn các nước thù địch. Tình thế này khiến Israel phải đưa ra giải pháp trước khi quá muộn. Và họ chọn Iran.

Trước khi thù địch, Israel và Iran từng hình thành một liên minh chiến lược. Ảnh minh họa: Sky News

Theo Viện Brookings (tổ chức tư vấn có trụ sở tại Mỹ), sự thù địch Israel – Iran rất kỳ lạ. Hai nước không có biên giới chung, không xảy ra chiến tranh cũng như không có bất kỳ sự cạnh tranh gay gắt nào về kinh tế hay vị thế trong khu vực. Lịch sử về mối quan hệ giữa người Ba Tư (Iran ngày nay) và người Do Thái (Israel ngày nay) cũng phần lớn là những điều tích cực. Thậm chí, trước năm 1979, Israel và Iran còn tạo thành một liên minh chiến lược về chính trị, kinh tế, an ninh và nhiều lĩnh vực khác. Vậy điều gì đã khiến Israel và Iran từ bạn hóa thù? Loạt bài kỳ này sẽ cố gắng giải đáp phần nào câu hỏi đó.
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Nhà ngọt Alabama – Sweet home Alabama

500 Greatest Songs of All Times

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“Nhà ngọt Alabama” là bài hát của ban nhạc rock Mỹ Lynyrd Skynyrd xuất hiện lần đầu vào năm 1974, được viết như lời phản hồi cho các bài hát “Southern Man” và “Alabama” của ca sĩ Canada Neil Young về nạn phân biệt chủng tộc và chế độ nô lệ ở miền Nam nước Mỹ.

Alabama là tiểu bang miền Nam nước Mỹ, nghèo và có rất nhiều người da đen. Tuy nhiên, đối với ban nhạc Lynyrd Skynyrd thì đó là “nhà ngọt” và là “nơi bầu trời rất xanh”. Continue reading Nhà ngọt Alabama – Sweet home Alabama

Learning

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

What is learning? How do we learn?

Most people think that you learn by listening to what your teacher says, understand it, and keep it in your memory. Probably this way of learning is true to almost everything we learn, but that is only the outward appearance of learning. Inside, in our head and our heart, true learning is a process of thinking, of questioning, of reflecting on what we see, hear, smell and touch outside.

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Say, the first time you see a racoon, you immediately have a series of questions: What animal is this? What do they call it? Where is it from? Where is its normal habitat? What does it do? What does it eat? Is it gentle or mean? Will it jump up and attack me if I get close? Does it carry diseases that it may pass on to human?… Continue reading Learning

Tech layoff wave spreads to Vietnam

VNE – By Nguyen Hang   November 6, 2023 | 06:00 am GMT+7

A programmer works on computers in an IT office. Photo by Shutterstock/ProStockStudio

Having worked for a large foreign technology corporation in Hanoi for more than five years, data analysis expert Le Thai Ha was shocked to get suddenly fired recently.

“Because the tech market has fluctuated a lot, our corporation officially announced a mass layoff, mostly of senior positions, including mine,” she said.

Despite being aware of the difficulties of the market in general, and of the corporation in particular, its decision to cut back was still a big surprise to Ha.

Continue reading Tech layoff wave spreads to Vietnam

Việt Nam says xin chào to music tourism

VNN – November 12, 2023 – 08:17

An image taken before South Korean girl band Black Pink’s Born Pink Tour in Hà Nội in July. Tourist arrivals in the city jumped 2.5-fold to 170,000, including 3,000 foreigners, during their two-day concerts. — VNA/VNS Photo Tuấn Đức

The recent successful shows of famous international singers and bands show that Việt Nam is capable of organising mega global shows.

By Thu Ngân

For weeks Hanoian Bùi Trang Dung was unable to decide where to take her family for vacation last summer.

“This place is beautiful in the summer, that place has many delicious foods and the other one is cheaper.” These were the words that constantly ran in the 42-year-old’s mind.

She then came across a piece of information about a music show by a famous singer she loved in Mù Cang Chải in the northern province of Yên Bái.

The holiday destination instantly chose itself: It was to be Mù Cang Chải.

Continue reading Việt Nam says xin chào to music tourism

Lebanon’s half-formed peace plan may be Gaza’s best chance

Prime Minister Najib Mikati’s tentative proposal needs Western backers.

By Justin Ling, a journalist based in Toronto. FP

Caretaker Lebanese Prime Minister Najib Mikati speaks on the phone ahead of an interview.
Caretaker Lebanese Prime Minister Najib Mikati speaks on the phone ahead of an interview.

NOVEMBER 9, 2023, 4:30 PM

Lebanese Prime Minister Najib Mikati has a plan for peace in Gaza and Israel. If it has any hope of becoming reality, he’ll need Western backers. Thus far, he doesn’t have any.

It’s time for Western leaders to step up.

As the death toll in Gaza grows, now over 10,000, Lebanon’s caretaker prime minister has been trying to win allies for his three-step peace plan. First, Mikati proposes, would come a five-day pause in hostilities, during which Hamas would release some of its Israeli hostages and Israel would open its border crossings to more humanitarian aid. If the peace can hold for those 120 hours, negotiations would begin for the release of the remaining hostages in exchange for prisoners held by Israel. As that happens, work on an international summit for a permanent two-state solution would begin.

If it can get off the ground, Mikati’s proposal would channel the worst violence Israelis and Palestinians have seen in decades into the most serious peace effort since the collapse of the Oslo Accords.

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Mười ba – Thirteen

500 Greatest Songs of All Times

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Đây là bài hát của ban nhạc rock người Mỹ Big Star, phát hành vào tháng 3-1972.

Báo nhạc Rolling Stone mô tả đây là “một trong những kỷ niệm đẹp nhất của tuổi trẻ nhạc rock” và xếp bài hát này hạng 406 trong danh sách 500 bài hát hay nhất mọi thời đại.

Bài hát được sáng tác bởi Alex Chilton và Chris Bell (2 trong 4 thành viên ban nhạc). Continue reading Mười ba – Thirteen

Developing our culture

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

“Developing our Vietnamese culture” builds upon a number of premises: (1) Culture is a living entity, growing every day, (2) Culture doesn’t develop by itself, (3) Many factors may affect the growth of the culture, and (4) We, the members of the culture living within the culture, have a major role in the development of culture – we can help the culture develop well and be healthy, strong and positive, or we may lead the culture to illness, weakness and negativity.

Our role in the development of our culture is the focus of this article.

We contribute automatically to the development of culture, whether we know it and want it or not. By the way we live, our behaviour and attitude, thoughts and actions, we affect and influence our culture and its development.

Once upon a time, most Vietnamese wear clothing with dark colours – black, brown and, occasionally, white. Today, we wear multicoloured clothing every day. That is a huge change in culture, giving the culture a greater feel of youth, happiness and enjoyment.

In the old days, in conversation, the older or socially-higher person talks, the younger or socially-lower person says “yes” almost throughout the entire conversation. That is the characteristic of a Confucian hierarchical society. Today, both parties in a conversation, regardless of age or social ranking, are very much equal and talk almost equally, although there is always the presence of respect and deference toward the elder. That is the characteristic of a democratic culture, with a trace of natural respect for seniority.

The Vietnamese today, though more democratic, still show serious respect for the aged in daily conversations. That is a characteristic of the Vietnamese culture, compared to, say, the American culture, in which parents and children are more equal, so much that when a child is 18 s/he is completely equal to the parents in many ways.

Here we see the major elements of cultural development: (1) the old culture, (2) the new element that changes the old culture, and (3) the old culture transforms gradually into a new culture with traces of both old and new values present.

In our example above, the old Vietnamese culture was highly hierarchical. Then, a new element – democratic ideas from the West – has entered, through the French, the American, and the world, and changed Vietnam, resulting in the current Vietnamese culture – relatively democratic with a clear deference to the elders.

That is cultural development, with continuity – old values, new values, and the resulting mix of both old and new values.

Understanding that process of cultural development, we will know exactly how we should affect and direct our cultural development the best way for ourselves and for the future generations.

Old values were there, usually because they were good then.

New values come in because they are new and, therefore, attractive. New usually means attractive. But new values do have two problems:

1) Some values may be attractive, but bad in the long term, for our culture or for many cultures, including ours. We must be able to distinguish gold from brass.

2) Some people have the tendency to throw out the old shirt once they have a new shirt. That is wasteful and dumb. Why do you have to throw away your old shirt just because you have got a new one? Keep both of them, new and old, to make your clothing collection richer and more versatile for all occasions.

The problem with Vietnam in the last one hundred years is that once a young intellectual learns something new, especially new things from studying overseas, s/he often becomes arrogant and anti-Vietnamese-culture, opposing to almost everything Vietnamese. Young intellectuals often become revolutionaries, razing down their old Vietnamese culture, to build a new Western culture in their home.

That is not really development. That is to destroy, in order to build.

And we know, destroying is the easy part, building is the hard part. Most of the time, in culture, the destroyers can’t build anything, because the foundation has been pulverized and the builders have no expertise in culture building. The result is a cultural mess that we can see in the Vietnamese culture in the last 100 years.

So, folks, wise up!

The old values had a reason to be there. Keep them there.

For the new values, make sure you think carefully to distinguish bad values from good values. Promote the good, prevent the bad.

And let the old values and the new good values live together. Let them adjust themselves over time, so that they will be harmonized into a new, rich and good culture for us and our future generations.

Wish that we always have a rich, strong and good culture.

With compassions,

Hoành

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Chuẩn bị trao học bổng Đọt Chuối Non lần thứ 17: Vinh danh 120 gương sáng hiếu học, hiếu thảo

🌿 Từ ý tưởng ban đầu về việc xây dựng một mô hình học bổng đặc biệt để giúp đỡ các học sinh-sinh viên nghèo hiếu học khu vực Tây Nguyên, chương trình Học bổng Đọt Chuối Non đã ra đời. Qua 12 năm hình thành, chương trình Học bổng Đọt Chuối Non vẫn tiếp tục phát triển xanh tươi, và đang bước vào mùa trao học bổng lần thứ 17. Continue reading Chuẩn bị trao học bổng Đọt Chuối Non lần thứ 17: Vinh danh 120 gương sáng hiếu học, hiếu thảo

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