Dear Brothers and Sisters,

We all are happy when succeeding and stressed when failing. That is natural. But we also know we become wiser after each failure, be it a lost love or a bankrupt business. That is why we says, “Failure is mother of success.”

However, this is something you may have overlooked.

If failure is mother of success, then there is indeed no failure. Each “failure” makes us wiser, then each failure is a success in being wiser.

All my life, as far back as I can remember, I have never thought “I am failing.” Of course, have been unsuccessful at many things, but I have never thought “I am failing.” No one ever teaches me to think that way. Somehow, I have thought that way since I was very little, I guess.

Every time I am unsuccessful at something, I feel absolutely like winning – just “no big deal.” Somehow, I naturally know you win some and lose some, no big deal. In my primary school time, I used to be first in my class. Sometimes I dropped down to second. One day in my fifth grade, my dad wrote a comment on my school report: “Why falling down? Try harder or you will be punished.” I held the report, read it and talked quiet to myself: “What’s the big deal. I can’t be number one all the time. There is only one way for me to go sometimes is to go down because I can’t go up.” I guess, that was the day that I formed in my head the idea that ups and downs are natural and no big deal.

Growing up from that day, every time I am unsuccessful at anything, I just think: “Good, one more good lesson.” Truly, I have never seen any failure as failure. The dictionary in my head probably doesn’t have the word “failure.” Every time, winning or losing, I only see a good living experience. I have never stressed at losing anything. In sentimental matters, I hurt like crazy when I lose someone or make someone hurt, but I don’t call that failure – just one more good lesson to learn.

Life is a long series of learning and experiencing. Ups and downs are living lessons and living experiences. All lessons and experiences, be they hurting or comforting, are good for us.

No failure. Just another good hurting lesson, once in a while. Thanks, God.

Wish everyone enjoy the ride up and down.

With compassion,

Hoành

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