Dear brothers and sisters,

We may have hundreds of reasons to get angry in a day, if we want to be angry – someone insulting, too much rain, stuck in traffic, crazy driver cutting in front, customer complaining…

The question is: Do we want to get angry a hundred times in a day?

If you are in a constant mood of anger, you won’t be able to do anything effectively; in addition, you will be sick and die early. Why would you want to live such a life?

But here is your problem: Are you a puppet, being controlled by all kinds of people and all kinds of events around you?

Everytime something makes you angry, obviously you don’t want to be angry but, against your will, you still get angry. What does that mean? It means you are a puppet, which has just been pulled by something or someone, into doing something you didn’t want to do. That was not you acting angry – that was a string pulling you to act angry. 

The gist of the anger story is that: when we get angry, we are actually the slave of something or someone. We are not ourself, we are not in control of our actions and behavior, someone or something is pulling the string to control us.

That is the problem with anger: You are not you, you become a slave.

So, just stop it. People hurl insults at you, that is their work. You don’t hear their insults, that is your work. If you mentally don’t hear them, they cannot pull a string on you.

The solution for anger is that simple. Whatever people do or say, you ignore it, mentally block it out, erase it from your system. Just like the rain and the shine, why should rain or shine bother you? People are like weather, they come and go like clouds floating through the sky. They do their own things. Why should THEIR acts bother you? Clouds come and clouds go. Why should their acts control you and pull your string like your are their puppet.

Come on, man! Live independently. Be your own boss. You control you. No one, nothing, in the world can control you.

Anger is not just anger. Anger is your cruel boss, it reduces you to its slave, if you let it affect you and become your boss.

Just be yourself, be in full control, be your own boss.

Simple like that.

No anger.

I am myself. Nothing and nobody can control me.

Wish you always be strong and free.

With compassion,

Hoanh

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